It is hard for me to put into words what it meant to me to have Debbie Perdew as my doula for my second child, to me and my husband. I expected her to be supportive during my labor and delivery, but she was actually supportive from the very first time I spoke to her until now, and my baby is almost a year old. I feel very confident that she will be a lifelong friend and always a source of support for our family.

I was impressed with her knowledge of homeopathic remedies and blessed that she was always available to help me decide what to do about any ailment that anyone in my family experienced. I was even more impressed that she prayed for me, cheered me on, taught me... whatever I needed at any given moment, she was willing to do whatever she could to help. She isn’t just a professional, she is a servant. A loving, giving, patient, kind servant.

 

I was so scared about the labor and delivery of baby number 2 because my first child took 3 days to get here and despite wanting a natural birth, I had to have many different types of medications. With baby number 2, due to Debbie’s homeopathic remedies, the labor quickly progressed and only lasted 6 hours total. I did not receive anything for pain. She supported me and encouraged me throughout the labor and delivery. My recovery was incredibly easy also!

 

For my husband, it meant peace of mind as well. Peace that he didn’t have to know how to support me. He was comfortable knowing that Debbie would tell him what to do to help. My husband was skeptical about the doula and did not want to “waste” the money at first. Now he tells everyone to “get a doula!” It’s the absolute best decision that we could have made for our pregnancy. And certainly, should we find ourselves pregnant again, no other doula will acceptable now that we know this kind and loving person, Debbie Perdew.

Referral letter from Mary Beth Durocher

          When I considered whether we needed a doula or not and whether it would be worth the money, my initial thought was no. I did not have "fun" childbirths with our 2 girls. They were actually pretty traumatic. I went completely natural and felt that I was totally out of control. I wanted something different this time. My husband is the oldest of a large family and we enjoy the idea of some day having a lot of children. So we knew that something had to change for me. I dread labor from the moment that I find out that I'm pregnant. Anyways Debbie came highly recommended from several of my friends so I begged my husband to consider it. She was the best choice that we ever made! She met with us several times for prenatal care and preparations. She was organized, knowledgable, calming and very caring. I knew exactly what she would be doing to help alleviate my pain. She gave me hope. She checked on me often in the weeks to come and was always available to talk if I needed her. The day of the birth she arrived at the hospital exactly when we did and went right to work applying pressure to my hips and rocking me back and forth. She used oils for relaxation and to stimulate contractions, turned the lights down, music playing, quiet reassuring words,  insisted on a quiet atmosphere and even requested the Aqua doula (which was amazing). You see, the nurses don't help with pain and nausea relief aside from pushing medicines. They mostly stand there and ask if you need anything and leave you and your husband alone. Husbands are great..... But they just don't get it. They don't get the pain. They feel helpless in a way. I knew there had to be something better. At one point, Debbie was helping the nurses prepare the aquadoula and my husband tried to apply pressure to my back and hips just like Debbie. I was literally begging for her to come back. Her hands and her voice are absolutely amazing. She knew different positions to help open the cervix and then helped with positions for pushing. Our son was born with a double nuchal cord and then aspirated fluid and had to be taken to nicu. She kept me calm and stayed with me the entire time. She then visited all of us many times during our nicu stay and even when we came home. We call her family now and I am for sure planning on having more children thanks to her. We owe it all to her. So if you are on the fence about whether she's worth it, she is!

 

 

The Durocher Family

Referral letter from Amber

         My name is Amber.  I am a mother of 3 children. The youngest is a 14 month old baby girl, born June 2015.

I made the decision to have a doula with my 3rd pregnancy because I did not have good experiences with the deliveries of my two older children.  My husband and I educated ourselves this time around.  We had read Ina May Gaskins book and watched her documentary on birth, and as a result we were convinced of how vital it was to have proper support during delivery, especially since we desired to have a natural, intervention free birth.  We were on a very tight income, but decided it was worth it to hire a doula.  With my second child I had an epidural, which was an added expense of about a thousand dollars, so the cost of hiring a doula seemed reasonable.

 

A friend had hired Debbie Perdew to be her doula, and highly recommended her. She told us that she would never again try to deliver without a doula. This helped confirm my decision.  I contacted Debbie and we began meeting to prepare for my upcoming birth.  I had many issues and anxieties as a result of my    previous births so I talked through the concerns with her and we came up with a plan which included various comfort measures and relaxation techniques.

 

Because I delivered at the hospital, my birth was not as stress-free and intervention-free as I would have preferred, however because of Debbie I was able to deliver my baby completely natural, without any pain medication and without an epidural.  For a lot of the delivery I was focused on getting through contractions, and because of that I didn't notice all that Debbie was doing to help keep me comfortable.  But my husband is certain that she is the only reason I was able to make it through delivery. She was doing things like using cool cloths on my face, diffusing peppermint oil for the nausea I was having, and massage to help me remember not to tense up with contractions.  My husband says there were many times where I was on the brink of giving up, but Debbie was able to bring my focus back.  Debbie was able to support my husband and reassure him as well throughout the process.  The support she gave me during my labor took a lot of pressure off of him.  He says that if Debbie had not been present he would have given in when I wanted to give up, but instead Debbie encouraged me and supported him when I was feeling overwhelmed by the labor. Because of Debbie I was able to reach my goal of a natural delivery and for this reason alone we felt we had made an excellent decision on hiring a doula.  I've heard of so many woman who go in with the goal of delivering naturally, only to give up once they get the hospital, because they don't have the proper support team to encourage them and remind them of their birth plan goals.

 

I asked my husband what words of wisdom he could give at this point for couples thinking of hiring a doula and this is what he said: "when the wife gets to the point of desperation and feels like she can't go on because the labor has been long and uncomfortable, she is going to appeal to you as a husband.  Then she's going to feel disappointed in the end if she didn't have a natural labor.  A doula is able to redirect and encourage the woman when she feels like giving up, and the laboring woman feels confident because she knows that the doula has the knowledge of birth and knows what she's doing."

 

I couldn't agree with him more.  Simply having a woman with me who had not only experienced natural birth multiple times herself, but had also been present at dozens of births, gave me the confidence to know that if she tells me I'm doing great or that everything is okay I can trust that she knows what she's talking about.  This knowledge of what is normal in birth was a great comfort to me throughout the birthing process.

 

After having the natural delivery I had hoped for, Debbie visited with me a few times, and she became a great friend.  I highly recommend her to anyone who is hoping to have a natural delivery.  She made all of the difference in my birth experience!

 

 

From Matt:

I would consider using Debbie Perdew again, it was a good experience for us, and she was there the whole time we needed her. I would recommend a first-time pregnancy family to use her, she's a calming presence in the room, and knows the staff/what to ask for.

 

From Me,Sara:

I have had two doulas one for each labor that I have experienced. Naturally, both were different experiences and I have to say the best was the second one with Debbie. She is so caring, motherly and gentle that I was at peace the whole time. For the second labor where Debbie provided care and support, I had an intense, intense back pain that made me believe there was absolutely no way I could get through the labor without pain medicine. However, it was my desire to do so and thanks to Debbie’s knowledge and care, I was able to reach the end without medicine which gave me joy to accomplish what was my personal desire and that thanks to her. Her knowledge and invaulable help made me feel that I could labor again but only with her help. Doula’s are incredible support where family cannot be. They are there just to love on and care for in a knowledgeable way allowing family members to be there to support in a more emotional way. That being said, the support of doulas, Debbie in particular, gives such a peace making labor feel as God had created it, not easy but easier. I would highly recommend Debbie, primarily for the mother’s sake but also for the father who can then support the mother in the way she would like while Debbie provides help for the mother in a way the husband does not need to worry about.

 

Praying you are doing well.

Blessings,

Sara

             I First learned about Debbie from a friend of mine who used her doula services. Her first birth was a very traumatic 3 day process with no doula. She thought she had prepared well for it, but she didn't have the support of a doula to help her through the difficulties she faced. Her second birth was markedly different, and she was only at the hospital for 4 hours before delivering naturally and drug free with Debbie's support. Even long after delivery, she continued to contact Debbie who always made herself available to answer questions for a concerned mama.

 

When I was pregnant with my first, I knew I wanted Debbie to be part of my birth plan. My mom and husband would be present at the birth for support, but they didn't have the medical knowledge, experience, or natural remedies that Debbie did. From my very first interaction with her, I knew she would be an invaluable resource for us throughout pregnancy and at delivery. My husband's company closed and he lost his job unexpectedly, and I was unable to work as much as normal in late pregnancy, so we really had to cut out anything unnecessary from our budget. After talking and praying it over, we decided that we'd make whatever sacrifices we needed to in order to have the funds available to have Debbie present at birth. I'm way beyond thankful that we did.

 

Debbie provided tons of information during pregnancy that lead to better health and well-being for my baby and myself. Her services go above and beyond what most doulas provide. It was really helpful to practice some of the pain-coping techniques ahead of time with her, and to see pictures of what would be happening and have access to her library. I gained much more confidence about the birth and felt less anxious as Debbie and I talked about the birth plan. My husband felt empowered after meeting with Debbie and was thankful for all the knowledge and insight she provided, as well as tips for ways that he could provide practical help.

 

The info I learned from her made the first part of my labor so smooth and I felt like it wasn't nearly as bad as I had anticipated. I had some trouble in the second half, and if Debbie had not been there, I would have been a mess. I seriously can't even begin to describe the ways that she helped, always offering just what I needed in the moment. It was like she could read my mind at times, and knew what I needed even before I did sometimes. Although she will go as far as you want her to in guiding you in decision making during labor/delivery, she is respectful of your wishes as well. She was the perfect balance of encouraging me to do what she knew I wanted to do & giving me the confidence to keep going just a little more, but not too pushy when I changed my mind about some aspects of my birth plan. Debbie worked really well with the medical team. I ended up having some complications that would make it easy to have a dark shadow cast over the whole experience, but thanks to the support of Debbie and my husband and mom, I look back and just remember being surrounded by people who loved and supported me. Debbie will feel like family the first time you meet her. She's the sweetest, most down-to-earth person and someone that you do not want to go through the birth process without.  Daphne

 

        Referral Letter that was posted on Facebook

 

Listen up all you preggo mammas!! You need to know about a special someone very dear to me.

Me and Drew Miller were definitely met with some bumps along the way of both pregnancy and delivery but we were also given such sweet and meaningful gifts along the way- one of them being in the form of Debbie Perdew who is an out of this world Doula (Special Treasure Doula Services). I cannot say enough about this lady! I met her through the The Motherhood Collective (which if you aren't a part of you should be..another one of those gifts along the way:). Debbie played a huge role in helping me and Drew feel empowered and equipped to make the best decisions and walk confidently through something very new and unknown to us. Our goal was a natural birth, but more importantly a birth that we felt educated on, supported in, and confident in our ability to speak and be heard throughout the process. Debbie was instrumental in that. You guys, we could not have done it without her. Even though the end outcome wasn't completely natural due to complications (you can ask me about it later), Debbie's expertise and presence was not only impressive but got me through one of the hardest things I have ever done.

If you're expecting I strongly urge you to considering asking Debbie to be part of your team. She isn't just "hired help" but truly becomes part of the fam. She meets with you in your home and goes above and beyond to make sure you feel heard and confident in your choices. Me and Drew are incredibly grateful for her guidance and friendship. Thank you Debbie for investing in our little family in such an impactful way!

            Referral letter from Ron and Leslie Beverly

"We had 3 natural childbirths at Virginia Baptist without a doula.  However, we called on Debbie to help us with our 4th.  Long before we even reached delivery day, she was a wealth of information, encouragement, and prenatal support.  On the day of the delivery, we could not believe what a difference it made having Debbie with us.  I (Leslie) actually felt spoiled throughout the process.  Never had a labor been so tolerable and even euphoric!  When I think back on our daughter's birth, I am thankful beyond words for such a beautiful experience.  Ron also loved having Debbie there: "My wife was calmer, much more relaxed, and had a great birth.  It took the pressure off of me as well.  Once our daughter arrived, I was able to focus on the baby as my wife was recovering and resting -- knowing that Debbie was taking good care of her."  Knowing what we know now, we wish that we could go back and have Debbie at every one of our four births.  In the days and weeks that followed, Debbie continued to follow up to make sure that mom, dad, baby, and family were adjusting well.  Debbie is a treasure.  And we are so thankful that she is our doula."  ~ Ron and Leslie Beverly

 

 

 Anyone whoever needs a referral for you, please tell them to give us a call and we could answer her/his questions and concerns directly.

 

Rachel  Hoffman 724-833-1985

 

                  Having a child can seem so overwhelming and expensive. I kept asking my wife, Rachel, “Are you sure we need that? What about this one? It seems just as good and costs much less?” Then the day came she said she wanted to hire a Doula.I said, “What’s a Doula?” Before Rachel mentioned it, I didn’t even know the word existed in the English language. She tried to explain the benefits of a Doula to me. “She is there to guide and support me through labor. She helps to remind us of our birth plan and advocate for us to make sure we have the birthing experience that we want,” she said.  The first thing that came to my mind was, “Isn’t that what I’m supposed to do? This seems like an additional unnecessary expense.” After some discussion, Rachel eventually convinced me to meet with Debbie and I’m really glad that she did. It took a little more convincing, but eventually we agreed to hire her. Debbie worked with us prior to the labor, reviewing various hands-on techniques and answering any questions we had. It was great to have access to such a knowledgeable and caring resource that was only a text or phone call away.  My wife went into labor at 8pm on a Friday evening. She labored at home as long as she could. We eventually drove to the hospital and I called Debbie at 2am as we were checking in. She arrived within the hour. In the early morning hours, panicked, and caught up in the whirlwind of activity, I found it hard to remember the advice in the books I had read and the coaching that we had received. But luckily Debbie was there to pick up where I was lacking. She made the hospital room as comfortable as possible. She used essential oils to remove the sterile smell of the room and proceeded to rub Rachel’s aching muscles. She gave us instructions on things to try to speed the process along. She brought us both food and drinks, so that I didn’t have to leave Rachel’s side, or wait for a nurse. Before Rachel went into labor I was worried that Debbie might take my place, doing the things a husband should do. That wasn’t the case. Debbie allowed me to be a better husband and give the emotional support to my wife that she needed the most. That’s something that no one else could give her.Debbie wasn’t just there for Rachel. She was there for me as well. She was someone whom I could talk with about the progress Rachel was making and strategize with. This is something that I would normally do with my wife, and something that I had thought I would be doing with her, but being a first time father I was naïve as to what labor was really like. During the labor, I had to make some tough calls. I’m really glad Debbie was there to consult with. She stayed with us until after our son was born at 5:15 on Saturday evening. She never left our side, and was always supportive and positive, even when we were exhausted and discouraged. She truly was our rock.In the beginning, I didn’t know that the word Doula existed, and I felted threatened by the idea of someone taking my place. Now, I couldn’t imagine what having a child would be like without one. Out of all the things we bought, and money we spent, I can say without a doubt that hiring Debbie was worth every cent. Given the chance we would utilize Debbie’s services all over again.----Michael  Hoffman

 

Sunday, July 17, 2016

 

To Whom It Concerns:

This letter is to recommend Debbie Perdew as your next birth support doula!  My husband and I had our precious little one last week naturally at Virginia Baptist Hospital and cannot say enough about how glad we were that Debbie was there.

“I was really skeptical at first when Rebecca said she wanted a doula. ‘Doula?! What is that?!’ I said. Fortunately, we decided to hire Debbie. She was worth every penny!” – Ryan

Debbie showed support with pre- and post-natal visits, in addition to the birth support at the hospital. We met with her twice before the birth. During those visits she educated us on general labor and delivery and the rationale for the interventions she would use. She uses several of the following techniques: massage, essential oils, homeopathies, acupressure points, hypnobirthing, Rebozo shifting (see Spinning Babies website), and active labor positioning. She was always very keen to answer our questions and responsive via text message if I had a question when we were not together. Debbie also has her own little “lending library” as she calls it (which I took full advantage of). This library includes not only labor and delivery materials, but those for breastfeeding following your birth.

Debbie introduced me to the powerful tool of hypnobirthing. I had never heard of hypnobirthing before, but after listening to the CD that Debbie lent me and looking up more information online, I decided to implement several techniques (meditation, visualization) into my birth. These helped me relax before and during birth; at times I was able to sleep between contractions even in active and later labor.

Debbie supported me through the predictable and unpredictable. As with many births, mine did not go as planned for the following reasons: our baby was overdue (almost 3 weeks), we scheduled an induction, I had to use an IV in late stages, and our baby admitted to the NICU following birth. During these moments, Debbie did not advocate her personal opinion, but provided credited information and asked me helpful questions to help us come to our decision. She was a beneficial “liaison” or sorts between Ryan and I and our midwife (we had Claire McStacy).

An additional advantage to working with Debbie is her team. She and Sunshine Lewis provide coverage for each other in case there are multiple births at once or one of them gets sick or is delayed for some reason. Sunshine was with me for 8 hours by herself, during which time she was wonderful! She continuously provided essential oil massage and encouragement and guided me through positions to progress labor while advocating for my baby and I and our birth plan.

Finally, one of the most powerful advantages to hiring Debbie and Sunshine (for me) was their faith. Throughout the pre-natal and birth process, we were able to share our faith and strengthen it together! This was a sisterhood that is irreplaceable!

If you prefer, please contact us with ANY OTHER questions you may have! Rebecca’s cell is: 434-907-9115

Sincerely,

 

 

 

Ryan and Rebecca Crotser

In my opinion, Debbie Perdew is the absolute best doula in this area or anywhere else for that matter, she is worth her weight in gold! I know that she is the best at what she does because I had the privilege of training under her for a short time and was able to see firsthand all the support and love that she pours into the mama's that hire her.

 

When I became pregnant with my second, she was literally one of the first people I told because it was SO important to me that SHE be at my birth and I know she attends births on a first come, first serve basis.

 

I am so thankful for her and really don't know that I would have been able to manage the pain and intensity of my second birth without her. I was only in active labor for three and a half hours with my second and labor was much more painful and intense compared to my first. She was right by my side the entire time and focused on keeping me and my muscles relaxed and promoted fast decent of my baby by having me get in different positions as well as applying pressure to my hips. She seemed to intuitively know exactly what to do at exactly the right moment to ease my discomfort, really before I even knew I needed anything.

 

Debbie's ability to intuitively know what will relieve a laboring mother's discomfort is really quite amazing. Her ability to do this also allowed me to focus on resting or relaxing in between contractions instead of having to waste that breath and energy telling her or my husband what I needed or what would relieve my discomfort. Debbie utilized touch, massage and essential oils to manage my discomfort. She relieved my nausea by providing essential oils for me to breathe in. When I didn't know how I could possibly go on much longer, I heard Debbie quietly praying over me which gave me the strength to go on and my sweet baby girl was born minutes later!

 

My husband, Mark also believes a doula is a necessity when giving birth. Even though he is also a registered nurse, he does not know what it's like to have a contraction or birth a baby while Debbie has lots of experience in this area! For us, a doula who has actually gone through labor and delivered a baby themselves was a requirement.

 

Mark was so very thankful to have Debbie present at our birth. The fact that I was being supported by someone that had experience and knew exactly what to do to relieve my discomfort put him at ease. He appreciates not having all the pressure of being my only support. He's able to stay calm and relaxed, which keeps me calm and relaxed. He was my rock, holding my hand and looking at me lovingly (or talking and laughing with me in between contractions) while I labored in the birthing tub while Debbie massaged my lower back and applied peppermint oil that felt tingly and amazing and took my mind off some of the pain. For me, this is what I prefer. My husband is my moral and emotional support and Debbie provided physical and moral support. I know if I had ended up having a longer labor, Debbie would have showed him how to also physically support me and guided his hands accordingly. He was VERY impressed by all that she did, Debbie literally did not stop working from the second she walked in the door until my baby was born and we were all settled in for the night. He commented, "she was worth it, she was worth every penny!" Honestly, she should probably charge more for all that she does and I've heard other mother's say the same thing.

 

I can not recommend Debbie enough to every pregnant mama that I meet! Please feel free to contact me if you'd like to know more about my personal birth experience with this amazing woman and doula.

 

 

       It is hard for me to put into words what it meant to me to have Debbie Perdew as my doula for my second child, to me and my husband. I expected her to be supportive during my labor and delivery, but she was actually supportive from the very first time I spoke to her until now, and my baby is almost a year old. I feel very confident that she will be a lifelong friend and always a source of support for our family.

I was impressed with her knowledge of homeopathic remedies and blessed that she was always available to help me decide what to do about any ailment that anyone in my family experienced. I was even more impressed that she prayed for me, cheered me on, taught me... whatever I needed at any given moment, she was willing to do whatever she could to help. She isn’t just a professional, she is a servant. A loving, giving, patient, kind servant.

 

I was so scared about the labor and delivery of baby number 2 because my first child took 3 days to get here and despite wanting a natural birth, I had to have many different types of medications. With baby number 2, due to Debbie’s homeopathic remedies, the labor quickly progressed and only lasted 6 hours total. I did not receive anything for pain. She supported me and encouraged me throughout the labor and delivery. My recovery was incredibly easy also!

 

For my husband, it meant peace of mind as well. Peace that he didn’t have to know how to support me. He was comfortable knowing that Debbie would tell him what to do to help. My husband was skeptical about the doula and did not want to “waste” the money at first. Now he tells everyone to “get a doula!” It’s the absolute best decision that we could have made for our pregnancy. And certainly, should we find ourselves pregnant again, no other doula will acceptable now that we know this kind and loving person, Debbie Perdew.

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